Wednesday, August 29, 2007

TAKE ME OUT OF THE DARK

By: GARY V.

Just what is it in me?
Sometimes I just don't know
What keeps me in Your love,
Why You never let me go

And though You're in me now,
I fall and hurt You still
My Lord, please show me how
To know just how You feel

You have forgiven me
Too many times it seems
I feel I'm not what You might call
A worthy Christian after all

And though I love You so
Temptation finds its way to me

Teach me to trust in You
With all my heart
To lean not on my own understanding
I just forget
You won't give me what I can't bear

Take me out of the dark, my Lord
I don't want to be there

You've never left my side
You gave Your hand to me to hold
Oh Jesus, I'm no longer in the cold

And yet, I leave You there
When I feel satisfied
I'd like to Thank You every day
Not only when I feel that way

I've never known a Man
Who'd give His live for sinners like me
And yet, because He loves us so
He's promised us eternity
And we can have that promise
And be His if we have faith
And just believe

Teach us to trust in You
With all my heart
To lean not on my own understanding
We just forget
You won't give us what we can't bear

Take us out of the dark, My Lord
'Cause we don't want to be alone
Take me out of the dark, My Lord
We don't want to be there, My Lord

Trust in You with all my heart
Lean not on my own understanding
I just forget
You won't give me what I can't bear

Take me out of the dark, My Lord
'Cause we don't want to be alone
Take me out of the dark, My Lord
I don't want to be there

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

ATTITUDE

I am stubburn!!! Hard headed!!!
Yes I am... Haven't u asked urself why i became so stubborn?
I've got all the reason to be like this... so stop telling me how stubborn I am... instead u better check out u're very own self.
How many times I have to explained why i just can't say YES to what you want. Like for my past time... the recent one which is the ballroom class. I don't see anything bad about it. Then... my vacation... Ooh my! Don't you think i will say No if i have the money for my expenses going home?
I surely know my shortcomings... and i thought u understand...hmmm...

Monday, August 27, 2007

BE FREE


Set Yourself Free
Edmund O'Neill


Set yourself free from anything that might hinder you in becoming the person you want to be. Free yourself from the uncertainties about your abilities or the worth of your dreams, from the fears that you may not be able to achieve them or that they won't be what you wanted.
Set yourself free from the past. The good things from yesterday are still yours in memory; the things you want to forget you will, for tomorrow is only a sunrise away. Free yourself from regret or guilt, and promise to live this day as fully as you can.
Set yourself free from the expectations of others, and never feel guilty or embarrassed if you do not live up to their standards. You are most important to yourself; live by what you feel is best and right for you. Others will come to respect your integrity and honesty.
Set yourself free to simply be yourself, and you will soar higher than you've ever dreamed.

Sunday, August 26, 2007

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER


When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound "not politically correct”, there’s a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again:

"You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone"; You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION...1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for20or 30 years, that's a long, time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.
Two things can happen in a marriage:
(1) You can grow together, or
(2) You can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; and marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION 2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.
Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished”; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION 3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ";.So ask about your Significant other What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic?

Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.
There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION 4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving,we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc. . . . How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; Can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION 5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve"; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart.
It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.
Another perspective. ...There are some people in your life that need to beloved from a distance.... It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention....Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sitin the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life. An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, pity, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important .Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG ARE:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN
7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes)
8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace it.


Happiness keeps You Sweet,
Trials keep You Strong,
Sorrows keep You Human,
Failures keep You Humble,
Success keeps You Glowing,
But......... Only GOD KEEPS YOU GOING!

Thursday, August 23, 2007

PROUD TO BE ONE

PINOY KASI
Boystown, Girlstown

By Michael Tan Inquirer
Last updated 01:47am (Mla time) 08/22/2007
At one time or another, many of us may have tried to help out a poor but bright child through high school. It tends to start out well, with glowing reports and grades, and then something happens. The parents (more often, the mother) come sobbing about the student falling into bad company, about drugs, about “baon” [allowance] spent in Internet cafés, about a pregnancy. Sometimes the child is still working hard at school, but is overwhelmed by problems at home or in the community.
I’ve avoided sponsoring students in high school, quite frankly. There’s just too much that can go wrong. And yes, I’ve wondered at times if you could just put them in a greenhouse environment, sheltered from the world and given special care so they can concentrate on their studies.
It turns out there is such a place: Boystown and Girlstown (yes, kept separate) in Silang, Cavite. They’re part of a global network of World Villages for Children begun by an American, Fr. Aloysius Schwartz. Starting with one facility in South Korea, Father Schwartz eventually set up more of his “villages” in the Philippines, Guatemala, Mexico and Brazil. He died in 1992, but a congregation he set up, the Sisters of Mary, continues his work. It is currently headed by a Korean, Sr. Michaela Kim.
Secret

Driving along the South Luzon Expressway, I’ve seen Boystown and Girlstown many times from afar, but it wasn’t until last week that I finally got to visit, on the invitation of Ms Marixi Prieto, the Inquirer’s chair.
The event I attended was the inauguration of a new greenhouse at Boystown, donated by Lucio Tan, who personally attended together with another “taipan” [Chinese-Filipino tycoon], Washington SyCip. The greenhouse allows students to gain some experience with agriculture, while producing vegetables for their own school.
I thought the greenhouse was such an appropriate metaphor for the two institutions. Here are students plucked out of the poorest of families to receive an education they could only dream of. The kids have to be nominated by their parish priest, and should have been doing well in elementary school. The nuns themselves visit the families to make sure the child comes from a family in need (so good are their facilities there are better off families that try to get their child in).
Ms Prieto described the Sisters of Mary facilities as “one of the best kept secrets in the country.” And indeed it is. The sisters have worked very quietly without fanfare or publicity, yet what they do would put many of our other educational institutions to shame.

Boystown and Girlstown are actually similar to the boarding schools you usually associate with the rich. Both are high schools, built on sprawling grounds with full facilities: classrooms, science labs, computers, several (yes, several) basketball courts for the boys, a huge gym/auditorium, a swimming pool. All the students live on campus throughout the year, except for two weeks when they get to go home. They have no allowance, but all their expenses are paid for: tuition, board and lodging, even uniforms and rubber shoes color-coded by year level.
What is so amazing is that 56 faculty members (including 14 nuns) are able to run the facilities for 2,300 male students. I didn’t get the number of faculty for Girlstown, but there they have 3,600 students.
The Cavite facilities take care of children from all over Luzon. In Cebu, they have another two institutions for children from the Visayas and Mindanao.

‘Trabaho’

I will be honest and say that I had mixed feelings about this greenhouse approach. I was relieved to know they still knew how to write letters, given that they don’t have cell phones (more relief!) but, I kept wondering, with such a cloistered life, were they going to be prepared for the world outside?

It’s hard to be conclusive from a half-day visit, but I’m inclined to be optimistic. I got to interview some of the kids, starting with the freshmen. When I approached them and introduced myself, they huddled together, craning their necks to listen. There was a look in their eyes that was a mix of curiosity, enthusiasm and painful shyness.

The sophomores were a bit more outspoken. When I got to the seniors, the self-esteem and confidence were very clear. There was still a bit of the shyness, but they were more assertive and articulate, without the cocky, even arrogant, qualities you see in other 16- and 17-year-olds.
They’re in touch, I thought to myself as I watched their program with an impressive repertoire: a “rondalla” band that has won several competition awards, a choral group that did a jazz number (a capella!), and dance numbers (with participants from Girlstown). The two hosts spoke English flawlessly, but not at the cost of Filipino: all the children I spoke with, including non-Tagalogs, were very comfortable with Filipino.

What was so striking was that whether they were freshmen or seniors, when I’d ask what they intended to do after they were finished at Boystown, they’d answer, “Mag-trabaho” [“To work”]. I realized many did intend to work right away, but that if they were given the chance, they’d try college. Most wanted to be engineers, business people or seafarers. I knew they were making practical choices. None of the seniors I interviewed talked about becoming a doctor, or a lawyer, and one shyly asked me what course one needed to take to become a journalist.

Yes, they have their own world in there, but all the kids share their roots in the harsh realities of poverty. And coming to Boystown and Girlstown does expose the children to new horizons. I met students from Ilocos Sur, Mindoro, Quezon, Romblon, Albay, Sorsogon, Mountain Province and Palawan. I knew friendships were being built, transcending regions and languages.
When I got back to Manila, I did an Internet search and found a website set up by the alumni (www.asmsi.or.ph). There was an announcement for alumni from Northern Luzon: an invitation to climb Mt. Pulag.

There’s also a website for the World Villages (www.worldvillages.org), well-organized for fund-raising. But there are still so many needs that could use local support. Tan’s greenhouse is only one example.

Over lunch, I asked Sr. Elena Belarmino, who is the academic director, if any of their graduates had entered the University of the Philippines. She said that last year, there was one student who passed the entrance exam, but didn’t push through, worried about the living expenses. I suspect that if there were sponsors who could commit to supporting students’ college living expenses, more would apply to the University of the Philippines (UP) and other State universities, and take courses like journalism or medicine (who knows, maybe anthropology as a pre-med option).

Then it struck me: Here I was with my reservations about a greenhouse approach and forgetting UP, too, is a greenhouse. Yet, we’ve produced graduates who are not just in touch with the world, but have dared to want to change it. Greenhouses can make a difference.

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SOM FAMILY

Ating balikan ang isa sa pinakamasayang araw ntin sa loob ng Sisters of Mary…

“Happy Birthday po Sister, Ate, Kuya!”

Pagkagising mo pa lang sobrang espesyal na ng araw mo sapagkat may matatanggap kang napakatamis ng ngiti at pagbati sa kadormmate mo. At mas lalong sisigla ka pag nakatanggap ka ng “hand made greetings card” , poem or song written in a stationery, letters cut ng pangalan mo w/ message sa likod…etc etc.. (lalo na pag galing sa bestfriend mo)

Gabi pa lang naihanda mo na ang pinakabago mong damit at sapatos para sa misang gaganapin sa araw na ito.

Masarap ang agahan. Hindi lang cia simpleng tinapay at saging na may kasamang isang basong gatas kundi Tasty Bread w/ Egg, Mayo & Condense Milk (dhil gagawin mo ciang Egg Sandwich) plus nde gatas kundi mainit na Kape ang inumin.

Malinis ang buong kapaligiran mula sa kasuluksulukan ng dormitory hanggang halamanan or basketball courts.

Kalimitan 9:00 am ang misa at maaga pa lang marami ng donors and benefactos ang dumadating. Ang karamihan sa kanila galing pa sa iba’t ibang sulok ng mundo.

At dhil epesyal nga ang araw na ito napakaganda ng dekorasyon ng gymnasium na gaganapan ng misa. Cardinal ang madalas nagccelebrate ng misa or delegates ng mga pari galing pa sa iba’t ibang bansa. Sadyang pinaghahandaan ng rondalya members at lhat ng bata ang kakantahin sa misang ito kung kaya’t lhat ng bisita napapahanga talaga sila. Minsan nga, isa sa kanila nagsabi na para daw kaming mga anghel na bumaba sa langit.

Pagkatapos ng misa ibibigay na ang mga regalong bagong damit, sapatos, gamit sa eskwela etc etc … na may kasamang junk foods, candies at giant rainbow colored lollipop.

Pagdating ng tanghalian sobrang sarap ng pagkain. Aroz Valenciana ang rice w/ friend chicken, vegetables, fruits etc etc etc… at syempre nde mawawala ang ice cream & cake na paborito ng lhat. Sa sobrang dami ng pagkain halos nde ka na makatayo sa upuan.

Sa hapon nman may program sa gym ksma ang mga bisita na pinagtatampukan ng rondalya members at dance group.

Tapos sa gabi may movie showing…

Monday, August 13, 2007

HOW TO FIND YOUR ONE TRUE LOVE

Bo Sanchez

12 August 2007
07:00 - 10:00pm
Traders Hotel

As you might notice i'm an avid reader of Bo's" Soulfood. Actually, I've heard so much about him when i joined Singles for Christ a year back. And when i received an email that he is coming to Dubai to conduct a seminar about "Think Truly Rich Pinoy", I immediately called to the in charge person asking to book a sit for me for that day but due to my financial constraint I wasn't able to buy the ticket and eventually not able to attend the seminar. Hmmm… I ‘ve almost dreamed of having a picture w/ him that day, so I can attached it on my blog.

God is really good. He had still allowed Bo to touch my life. Bo was scheduled to have a talk about “how to find your one true love” in SFC and other visitors. With no other chance to meet him I have attended the seminar and it was yesterday night that I’ve seen him in person. Oh well, I never thought that he was still very young……. very young to be an international speaker!
On Topic:

I was not supposed to attend this seminar since I’m no longer a single. I guess the question now is "Did I find my one true love?”

One thing I can say is that "I prayed for him". Infact every Church we went to attend mass before we got married, my only prayer was “Lord, sana cia na”. I don’t know if my prayer is right. Coz as I can see what we are going through now, I wish I can go back and pray again…. “Lord, cia po ba ang gusto nio para skin?”

Now, I’ve got so many regrets. Nde ko alam kung ang mga nararanasan ko ngaun ay bahagi pa ng buhay may asawa… or just the consequences of the distance that we have….or bka nga nde pa kami matured enough sa buhay na pinasok nmin…

I wish long before I got married I have joined SFC or he has joined SFC….or we have attended Bo’s seminar…

The only option left for me is to bring him in the community.



Thursday, August 09, 2007

CONDOLENCE

Wish I was there to lend a shoulder to cry on... to give u strength to accept that he was already taken by the Father to be with Him in heaven...
But just like what my HH leader told me, i've got nothing to do but to listen and leave u feel the pain.
Just be strong...

Saturday, August 04, 2007

HARRY POTTER

Deira City Center Cine Star Cinema 5 w/ Chie and Ate Myrna


After having our dinner to China Times, we decided to watch Harry Potter.

Well, i didn't enjoy the movie maybe because i don't like such kind of stories...

Thursday, August 02, 2007

BITTERNESS

"The best and easiest way to forgive and forget i guess is to see the person who hurt me-- SUFFER MORE THAT I DID..... and that' s the best that i can get the consolation from grieving because of the pain that the person caused me"...(this is what BITTER people believe in about forgiving)



I've been there!!!.... and the worst thing i did is to wish something bad to happen on that person... I've even cursed her...which u know it really happened to her. I was happy the moment i heard the news but there was some guilt feeling... I never thought that it might really happen to her...but back of my mind i say "it was just good for her"...

Am bad of course, but it was one of the reason that i felt good...

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